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Guiding Thoughts Posted on Wed, March 05, 2014 14:18:42

Should you only marry your own kind? There are arguments for both sides in my estimation, but the real answer is NO.

Marriage is about the coming together of two people who love each other for themselves, not their race, their colour, their wealth or lack of it. Relationships, what ever the make up of it will survive if They show respect for one another, If they apologise when wrong and accept apology quickly when given, If they strive to always tell each other the truth, If they show each other respect and If they can help it, Not raise their voices to each other and to think before they speak.

A marriage is
supposed to be made in heaven but if it is to work in the 21st Century it has
to allow both partners to discover their inner potential rather than being
merely an institution for living together and raising children,

The best marriages
are probably better today than at any time in history because spouses are
looking for something other than simply sharing the same home, a goal which
would have been acceptable a century or
more ago, but now couples are also looking for a spiritual connection, with similar goals and ambitions which they describe as
finding their soul mates.

All couples argue, and some disagreements may not
be bad for building a relationship. But when arguments become heated, that’s
when blame, criticism and name-calling comes out, sometimes unintentionally. And
too much of that isn’t as good for marital happiness, as plenty of research

Women take more responsibility for emotional harmony in a marriage.

It’s important for partners to realise they have a lot of emotional influence on each other. There are two people in this dance, but women may have to take the first step to show him the way and other things will follow.”

This may be something that husbands and wives know intuitively, but now there’s science to back up these hunches

A Chance

Guiding Thoughts Posted on Fri, February 28, 2014 11:41:05

The quality of mercy is not strained,

It drops as the gentle rain from

Upon the place beneath: it is twice

It blesses him that gives and him
that takes:

IT is the mightiest of the mightiest: it

the throned monarch better than his

His sceptre shows the force of
temporal power,

attribute to awe and majesty,

sits the worry and fear of kings;

But mercy is
above this sceptred sway;

It is
enthroned in the hearts of kings,

It is an
attribute to God himself;

And earthly
power then show likeness to God’s

When mercy
seasons justice.

Therefore if law is all we cling to with no mercy or

kindness, then none of us should see

We do pray for mercy; And that
same prayer does teach us

all to render The deeds of mercy to everyone.

William Shakespeare

Do you have a purse full of Loyalty Cards?

Personal Posted on Fri, February 07, 2014 11:55:33

If you tipped your purse out would
you be surprised at how may Loyalty Cards you have collected over the
years? But do you actually use them to
their full potential and do you actually know what it means when you do use
them. I think the answer you would come
up with would be no to both questions.
Don’t worry you are not alone.

With points, rewards and cash-back schemes being offered by all the major department stores, supermarkets and a
variety of other big brand chains we need a bag just for all the loyalty cards
on offer. Have you ever been behind
someone paying for their goods and watch them route for a handful of cards
before they find that shops loyalty card.
Have you been ‘that’ person? I am
guessing you can answer yes to both too.

These are the regular ‘Loyalty Cards’
that have found their way into my purse and out of the eight above two don’t
get used, four occasionally, with the other two on a weekly basis. Do I know what perks they can offer me – yes I
have a fair idea of most of them. So let’s
take a look at the ones that deserve to take up room in my purse.

Boots Advantage Card allows you to collect
4 points for every £1 you spend and the points you accumulate can pay for future
purchases. Not a regular Boots shopper
but over time my points do build up, and especially around Christmas shopping
time and I normally find I can treat myself to a little something special once
the New Year starts.

Tesco Clubcard have a variety of
options to gain points with purchasing in store and online being the best way
to collect points at 1 point per £1 spent.
You can also collect points on fuel although you only get 1 point for
every £2 you spend. Points are converted
into clubcard vouchers and you can use instore, or turn into days out vouchers,
cinema tickets, or vouchers to eat out.
I think I have used my Tesco Clubcard vouchers for most things and definitely
worth collecting if you have children and like the zoo.

Nectar Card works similarly to Boots
Advantage Card and can be used in Sainsbury’s, Homebase, Ebay and British
Gas. Mine gets used solely for Sainsbury’s
where you get 2 points per £1 spent in store and online. Points add up to a cash total with 200 points
equalling £1 and my points are being saved to use at Christmas, and something I
am sure many customers decide to do.

Costa Coffee allows you to collect five
points for every £1 you spend, with each point being worth a penny and can be
used for future coffee and cake treats.
Whenever a shopping trip is arranged there is always a visit to Costa
Coffee, so for me this one has to stay.

Why not take a look at what is in
your purse and see if they should stay or go and make room for a loyalty card
that is going to be worth carrying around.

National Storytelling Week

Children Posted on Sat, February 01, 2014 11:54:30

It is said storytelling began a very long time ago when man
collected words and spoke to lift life through fables, tales and stories, often
accompanied by hand movements and facial gestures. Nowadays storytelling is a huge part of life
that starts as early as the infant years and continue through life until the
last years of life. Storytelling is not
just for entertainment, it can help aid bereavement and therapy, support
learning difficulty and special needs groups, to even improving communication
in the business world. The act of
sharing stories between storyteller and listener feeds the imagination and is
continued to be passed from one generation to another.

Today sees the start of the 14th annual National
Storytelling Week which is run by The Society of Storytelling. It begins today Saturday 1st February
and last until the following Saturday 8th February. The aim of the National Storytelling Week is
to spread the ‘word’ and promote ‘the oldest art form in the world’ –
storytelling. You might have seen
posters in your local library or art gallery with details of how they are
celebrating National Storytelling Week, or if you have young children their
school may have decided to include National Storytelling Week in their school week.

You can find out where and when events in your area are
taking place on The Society of Storytelling website where there are lots
of information and resources for everyone to use.

Why not have your own storytelling event and help spread the
word. All you need is your imagination
and a willing audience and it doesn’t matter if it is 1 person or 100 people,
keep the joy of storytelling alive and pass the ‘word’ on.

Atlantis – Merely Just A Myth

Guiding Thoughts Posted on Mon, January 27, 2014 11:38:35

What springs to
mind when you hear someone mention the word Atlantis? Do you conjure up images of underwater cities
and mythical characters or remember the latest TV or film to hit our screens
that depicts the lost city under the sea?
So is Atlantis merely just a myth or did this now submerged city once
look out over the ocean that surround it.

According to
Plato, one of the world’s best known philosophers, Atlantis was in fact a major
sea power located in the Atlantic. His
accounts included detailed descriptions of Atlantis, the mountains and plains
that surrounded the great city and its successful conquests of parts of Western
Europe and Africa. It is also believed,
after a failed attempt to invade Athens, Atlantis supposedly sank into the
ocean and has remained there ever since.

For many years
archaeologists, architects and scientists have tried to discover the exact
location of this missing city and searches have, with the help of the
information Plato shared, been focused on the Mediterranean and the Atlantic as
the most likely sites.

We have seen how
much of their life these specialists devote to carrying on their research and
finally get the proof they have been long searching for. Astronauts have gone into space and landed on
the moon, surely experienced divers can locate Atlantis and show the world
that Atlantis was more than a figment of a great philosopher’s
imagination. It would be interesting to
see what comes to the surface in the future.

12 years slave

Guiding Thoughts Posted on Thu, January 23, 2014 13:21:29

Of course we must not forget tof as well.

Kind regards to you all xx

12 Years A Slave

Personal Posted on Tue, January 21, 2014 19:38:08

It seems that one particular British
director is not only making headlines but waves in the film industry for his
latest film – 12 Years a Slave.

Based on the nineteenth century
memoirs of Solomon Northup and adapted by screenwriter John Ridley, the film
follows Solomon’s as he goes from being a well-educated family man from New
York State to being sold into slavery in the south due to his colour. This type of kidnapping was rife in these
times. The film is not an easy watch for
even the hardest of souls and if you only decide to watch just one film this
year, make it this one. An important
story told from first-hand experience dating back centuries. Told with passion, conviction and grace.

Steve McQueen is no ordinary film
director, and 2014 looks like it will be the year he makes his mark in the film
industry and add to his growing collection of accolades. Awarded the Turner Prize for his artwork, one
of the highest awards given to a British visual artist and also appointed
Commander of the Order of the British Empire for services to the visual arts,
McQueen is regarded as one of the best.

Now it looks like his latest big
screen drama production may just allow him to get his hands on the much sought
after Oscar, an award most actors, directors, producers would give their last
dollar to have amongst their achievements.

So far 12 Years a Slave has won a Golden Globe for Best Motion Picture,
Drama and a Critics Choice Award for Best Picture, with Lupita Nyong’o also winning
Best Supporting Actress and John Ridley for Best Adapted Screen Play.

It has also notched up 10 BAFTA
nominations and 9 Oscar nominations many in the same categories. This film and everyone associated with it
will surely be keeping their fingers crossed that the awards keep coming their

As for the talented, unassuming
British Director, Steve McQueen has certainly cemented a fruitful future
amongst the greats of Hollywood and beyond and it has only taken one great film
for the world to remember his name. A
name they surely won’t forget and one that will hopefully be amongst the nominations once again.

Chocolate Sponge Cake

Personal Posted on Sun, January 19, 2014 19:21:39

Last week the nation was treated to four
‘charity’ bake offs for Sport Relief and a little something to keep the loyal
followers happy. Mary Berry and Paul
Hollywood pulled apart, literally, the celebrity bakes whilst viewers watched,
laughed, cringed and cheered at the screen.

It really got me thinking of baking
and one particular cake that seemed to be a big feature – The Chocolate Sponge
Cake. So I thought it would be a great
idea to share Mary Berry’s own recipe for the perfect Chocolate Sponge Cake and
see if there are any potential bakers amongst you.

Preparation Time: 30 to 60 minutes – Cooking Time:
30 to 60 minutes – Serves: 8





50g/2oz cocoa powder

6 tbsp boiling water

3 free-range eggs

4 tbsp milk

175g/6oz self-raising flour

1 rounded tsp baking powder

100g/10oz natural caster sugar

For the icing and filling:

150g/5oz dark chocolate, broken into
small pieces

150ml/5fl apricot jam

Icing sugar, to dust

Preparation method:

1. Preheat the oven to 180C/350F/Gas Mark 4 and
grease and line two 20cm/8in sandwich tins with baking parchment.

2. Put the cocoa powder and boiling
water into a large bowl and mix well to make a paste. Add the remaining ingredients and beat again
until combines. This can also be done in
a food processor, but take care not to over whisk. Divide the cake mixture
between the prepared tins. Bake for
about 25-30 minutes, or until well risen and shrinking away from the sides of
the tin.

3. Meanwhile, for the icing and filling,
measure the chocolate and cream together in a bowl and stand the bowl over a
pan of simmering water for about 10 minutes, or until melted. Stir from time to time. Set aside and leave until cool and almost

4. Once baked, remove the cakes from the
oven and allow to cool completely.
Spread the tops of each cake with apricot jam. Fill the cakes with half of the icing and
spread the remainder on top. Draw large “S” shapes over the cake with a palatte
knife to give a swirl effect. Dust with
icing sugar and serve in slices.

Perfect to serve with a nice pot of
tea, or a freshly brewed cup of coffee when you visitors, or as a dessert
accompanied with custard, cream or ice cream.

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