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Personal Posted on Fri, February 07, 2020 02:05:05

I hope you are all having a good day.
I have been thinking recently about Valentines Day and I would like to implore everyone to do something to show their loved ones that they are cared for.
Even it is only getting a card or some flowers, maybe even taking them out for a meal.
Just make sure to do something; not necessarily expensive; just to show them that you do appreciate them in your life.
Also try and make it a policy to be true to yourself.
My old mum used to say if you have nothing good to say about someone else then don’t say anything at all, always strive for that which is good and true.
That is a good policy to live ones life by.
Always try and have someone to look up to, someone you stive to be like, but they will always be a guide as to which way you should go or which charcter traits you should build up in yourself.
There are so many confusing narrations going on in the world today but despite that one must always strive to do what is good and true, protecting our children from the attrocities going on in the world today.
They will all too soon go out into the world and discover the complexities and the badness for themselves so protect them and prepare them whilst you can.
I hope it is sunny and pleasant wherever you are today, so be true to your consience always, and only do to others that which you would like them to do to you.

Have a great rest of the day.

What’s up Foley

Personal Posted on Wed, February 05, 2020 01:06:57

Hello everyone, this is Foley.
Sorry it’s been a while but i have been going through some stuff.
That has kept me sober and reflective in the last year.
I unfortunatley lost my precious Son.
This has hit me very hard and has coloured my view of some things.
It has made me very reflective of life and how precious it is.
I have even developed a fondness for four legged furry creatures, i now have two lovely cats, Lucy and Smudge. Playing with them eases the pain I feel in my heart and as such they have become some of the highlights of my day.
Whilst in this reflective state of mind; I am currently researching what my next book will be about and hoping not to cloud my writing with too much sadness. But one thing i am sure of is that life is precious and you should live for the moment, anything you want to do you should go for it, Create a bucket list and ensure you fulfil it. as you don’t know what is around the corner. I don’t want to sound morbid or anything but i just need to get this off my chest.
i know that life is precious and you should let the ones you love know how much they are loved.
My books may become more coloured with love and acts of loving even more that before. In the mean time i will be planning a road trip, i will go around and experiance palcea nd appreciate them within the USA. I have recently returned from the UK where i spent some time apprecaiting England, so i hope to go around the USA to appreciate the landmarks andwhat it has to offer and looking for inspiration for my new books.
I have recently been going through some Barbara Cartland novels which i have been doing since i was a teenager and are inspiring, you would have thought i would have grown out of that but i haven’t, Her books are historical and she gives an insight into what life was like over the last two hundred years or so in Europe, particularly in the United Kingdom.
On a lighter note i have started appreciating Country and Western music emanating from Nashville of course as the songs are always telling a story about love and life as well as being easy to listen to with good music behind them.


Personal Posted on Mon, October 17, 2016 15:29:48

Remembering what my father used to say to me; which I have actually found to be true over years, is that Free from all waste and poison, and when no solid food has been taken for some time, one’s body functions without obstruction and one feels a surge of vitality through out one’s system.

Nowadays some people are beginning to believe that calorie restriction may even elongate/extend life, though this has not be proven.

So it is safe to say that calorie reduction certainly helps one to lose weight and perhaps then feel better within oneself, if it is not overdone for vanity’s sake.

People must appreciate we are not all built the same and we cannot all be thin, heck some people who are built succulently naturally, look awful when they lose weight and start to appear gaunt and hollow cheeked.

The right balance has to be struck so we don’t send our youngsters the wrong message.

They have to now it is okay to have some flesh on their bones, or to be slightly chubbier than some of their friends, and they are just as beautiful; if not even more beautiful as a result of their feminine curves.

Four Legged friends

Personal Posted on Mon, June 01, 2015 09:22:57

There is huge attention given
to pets and animals these days which is revealing so much deeper understanding
of how animals connect well with humans in ways which were never imagined.

A child getting used to having
a pet or loving animals will always grow up with valuable attributes which are
produced by this unique relationship only reserved for the four or two legged

Having a family pet teaches
respect, kindness and sharing as well as the added bonus of alternative
entertainment. Ask a child to go to the park, to play football or to swing on
the swings and the novelty may wear off, but ask them to come out with the dog
and their energy seems unending. The animal ~ child relationship expands their
minds to having a friend and also acts as a bridge between how they view the
world towards others. It is one of the easiest ways to educate a child in the
world of interaction.

Many children will adopt a
mothering instinct over the pet, and find comfort petting and stroking it,(in
itself a great process of building up calm and secure feelings), some will view
it as their own personal friend, something they relate to because in their mind
it belongs to them or they can talk to it with no fear of anything but
unconditional love in return. Very few children who grow up with pets will
become spiteful or cruel towards animals as their own pet will always be in the
back of their minds in the event of meeting a new one. The wide variety of pets
do not have to stop at dogs or cats, animals do require work and in a normal
household may not be a practical addition, but even a goldfish or rabbit, or a
hamster can be a suitable alternative. Of course there is also the ability now
to take children to animal parks and farms, which proves a great learning
experience; if owning your own pet is not a feasible option. There are even
websites where owners who need their dogs walked advertise and this can provide
exactly the same excitement in a child’s life even though it is not their own
for most of the time.

Pets and animals encourage
children to talk, a child even before they can string sentences will often chat
in their own way to a pet or be able to say the names of a favourite animal in
a story book. They are not only reactive
to their environment but they can also provide a learning experience in their
fascinating habits and antics and every parent will know a child’s laughter and
smile will be one of the greatest gifts and rewards.

Nothing equals the sight of a
child running with a dog in a carefree safe environment and a dog or cat can
sometimes be the companion to a shy or less confident child encouraging them to
talk and express themselves. But the greatest advancement is the development of
training animals to help handicapped or emotionally abused children. Charities
and societies have been set up to breed and train suitable animals to work with
some families to help children in their everyday life and it has proved to be a
success. This is also true with some care focussed on the elderly.

There are boundaries of course,
animals are in effect wild and have not the ability to sometimes know their
strengths or can react in their own way if something upsets them, so care and
vigilance is always a requisite. Even the most placid animal sleeping may not
be too happy to be woken by an over enthusiastic playmate. Animals need their
space too so just piling lots of them into a smaller home thinking it will end
up as a harmonious area can be a fragile balance to maintain. A pet should not
be bought in haste either, a Christmas or birthday gift may sound a great idea
at the time, but care and attention of a pet will become part of the necessary
routine and so discussion and pre-thinking is also important.

Children find comfort in
relationships and in a world where time is precious and always under pressure,
a pet can become a great source of development for a child to understand and
find a simple source of happiness and even relaxation. Respecting animals is a
lesson for all to learn but this is greatly enhanced if the learning process is
a practical one and a pet will always reward back but whatever we teach our
children will always be repeated in their thoughts later in life and respect
and kindness are fundamentals for everyone to learn.

Price of Fame

Guiding Thoughts Posted on Thu, May 14, 2015 23:12:24

The glorious trend of talent
shows to our screens is an amazing and exciting revolution, whole countries,
genders, ages, and groups get caught up in the celebrity fever which takes over
when these events are being broadcast and there is no doubt they have brought
in many a pretty penny to the organisers and other stars involved in the

Many people view these
programs with different eyes. Some see them as a lot of people clinging to
their ideal of fame and fortune, some see them as a waste of time, and some
people will defiantly switch off so as not to be included in the sheep growing
herds following these programs. However the program designers have become more
and more confident and ploughed more and more money into these events knowing
that as people, we love watching other people. We do get a bit of a giggle when
things do not go according to plan, or an act obviously appeared to be so much
better in their sitting room singing into a long handled broom, but there is no
doubt it is an opening of our eyes to the fact that the world is full of
amazing gifted and talented people.

But there is a downside as
well, sometimes the young or fragile who sang or performed quite happily to
family and friends are not always prepared or ready to take on global mass
attention and it can produce long term damage psychologically. It is
understandable that over a short period of time, the supermarket worker who
suddenly finds themselves under the viewing of millions and performing to
thousands of applauding fans can falter in disbelief. The price of fame does come heavy, it can
destroy old friendships, families, and futures, it can take over a life and
sweep those involved along in a fantastical way in complete contrast to what
they have been used to and that is even before the press and paparazzi get

Suddenly from packing
someone’s bags as they leave the shop, or checking out a loose spark plug in a
mechanics world, they are spotlighted and their lives are in every media outlet
from newspaper to online. Every event they are involved in, every venture from
their homes they make, every action they do is watched and taken by the ever
hungry throng of journalists and sensationalised. Whoever cared before if you
bought your pasta at the little corner shop down the road? Whoever asked you
did you buy your underwear from Marks and Spencer or John Lewis? Such trivialities
of life which were private and in some ways totally not anyone else’s business
suddenly are projected to world fame along with your picture. Hiding becomes a
very serious option.

Friends from the past can
become envious and suddenly reveal their deepest darkest secrets, unheard of
relatives arrive out of the blue to comment on the close relationship they had
with you as a child, when they had only ever seen you at family weddings and
funerals. People who you have known well suddenly eye you as a cash machine and
not the person who shared a glass of wine or two with them on a night out in
the local pub. The expectation of what you should and shouldn’t be doing
becomes a blurred line and it is all of this that is secondary to the
appearance on stage the very first time, or the signing with a Publisher who
gave you an advance for your first book. For the lucky winner they trade
something in their life, they have to be strong minded and determined and take
on not only a new found career but a new life. They need to be prepared for
criticism and spitefulness, and in some cases may even need protection.

Of course the niceties
outweigh a lot of the negatives which is why people still do it, there is the
money security and the acclamations and the feeling of success at something
they love. Interestingly a class of children were asked what they would like to
be when they grew up and over half of them were enthusiastic in their response
of “a celebrity”. In the world today the rise of such success has now in some
of our children’s minds become a career prospect.

The money making wheels keep
on turning, the viewers keep viewing and for a long while ahead it seems talent
shows are here to stay. Everyone who steps out on that stage, who fills in
their application form or who dreams of transition from dancing in front of the
mirror to performing all over the world, should remember the price of fame, it
is not always a bargain to be gained.

Bring On the Romance

Books Posted on Mon, April 27, 2015 16:16:13

overwhelming success of Fifty Shades of Grey has sparked a revolution in female
writers and readers joining the bandwagon of exploit novels. There is no doubt
women today are much more free to discuss the intricacies of desire and
relationships more than ever before and in some ways this is a great thing. But
the incredible rise to the heights of a novel based on the physical is a great
source of objective thinking and does it reflect the sign of our times?

the years the greatest romantic novels and films have touched our hearts,
brought tears to our eyes and most of the time led to a fairy tale ending. Gone
with the Wind, Dr Zhivago, Wuthering Heights, Love Story are all past
successful epics of their time and beyond. They all have been threaded with the
same colour cotton, beautiful and sometimes sad or eventful stories intertwined
with heroines, heroes and a love line which beats up and down and round and
round. Centred around love and passion, they have brought to screen or book the
feeling that love is the defiant warrior and that it will survive somehow and in
some way. They also have been reflective of our way of thinking and society at
the time and how men and women view relationships. So is the romance of
partnerships something we do not get excited about anymore?

down most women want the same and few do not want the romance to go with the
good guy. Of course physical playtime and attraction are part of it but there
is also a great queue of women awaiting the rose on Valentine’s Day or the poem
filled card ,.And over time the male hero in stories has always been shown as a
little of the swashbuckling hero or the knight in shining armour. Films and
books where the man has whisked his girl from the depths of her poor life and
existence or have been portrayed as strong and ready to fight for her honour,
have captured the hearts of most with wistful sighs. The strangest thing is not all women nowadays
wish to admit it. In a world of powerful women rising in all career and society
areas, few women cite romance as the big attraction and yet will ooze
excitement over romantic extravaganzas such as George Clooney’s wedding, but not
the olden day Romeo, who will let nothing stand between him and his love .

it resulted in confused men that they no longer know which direction to go?
They are surrounded in the media with women who have successful careers, who
earn fortunes and can easily fund their own shopping sprees and home ownership
and in the work place are shown to be powerful and equal in many places. We are
shown many more men taking on roles in society of house husbands and Mannie’s
(male nannies) more and more frequently?
Are the men now thinking with a more “equal” head got in their minds
that women do not want to be treated like princesses and showered with a wave
of impetuous and spontaneous gestures?

they now become slightly hesitant and therefore they hang back and wait or cast
the thought aside that their partner would not enjoy such efforts or even worse
criticise their wayward thinking? Some romance and especially around wedding planning
is of course prevalent, but the confusion in how far it goes still remains

is part of the courtship procedure, very often it is the little things which
become memorable in the later years and part of the growth together. It is
something to be celebrated and shared in every relationship. The evidence is
there as Scarlett O’Hara may have come across as a bit of a bossy boots, and
free and independent thinking woman, soon melts when her handsome suitor showed
his feelings openly. It is of course part of our world that women have
thankfully found a voice and are able to succeed and a lesson to be learnt and
treasured, but as in everything the balance between two people and
understanding what each other wants is
just as important. There are very few
women on the planet who will discard the gift of a surprise bouquet or even a
bunch of flowers from the supermarket, there are few women who do not wish to
be treated with respect and kindness and few who wish their partner to shy away
from opening a door, or arranging an unexpected trip away. It can always be
said that partnerships should grow together and be equal in many ways and if
the guys get the romance right, they may find they have become the hero of ages
past and that their princess in the tower will actually let her hair down much
more often than he has ever dreamt !

Life’s Surprises

Guiding Thoughts Posted on Wed, April 22, 2015 12:44:59

Life Takes You by Surprise

in life you think you have everything planned, you make a list, or organise an
event or even arrange a date in your diary, and out of the blue an unexpected
change happens and throws everything into disarray.

how do you deal with the unexpected? Life is never about one straight forward
pathway. We all tweet and twitter and Facebook our plans, that half the time
the whole world knows more about what we have planned than we do ourselves.
Plans for days off, holidays, or weekend activities, where we are going, who we
are seeing or meeting.

it comes to birthdays and Christmas or any time when someone gives you a gift
or a surprise reward do you mind if it pushes your plans off course? Getting a surprise
ticket to a live concert on the night when you had planned to sit and chill
wine in one hand and a rom com, doesn’t seem too bad when faced with the
alternative of pushing buttons on a cd player. But if the car breaks down or a
household item decides to blow up and needs repairing that same night we nearly
all feel the pains of upset. So nice surprises are welcomed, but any unexpected
events which cause us disappointment or a loss are the ones we deal with
differently. And surprise events can actually add to life making it less
predictable and more exciting. It is
always worth viewing them from both angles although at the time it may not be
that easy.

people deal with the unexpected well, coping in a crisis, having a bus
timetable on hand when a car fails to start, or being able to look at the rainy
weather as a challenge to the picnic day and eagerly rushing to set up a gazebo
instead of sitting under the anticipated blue skies. They are not always
organised but they do have a less rigid way of life which means “expect the
eventuality which may throw your plans out the window and find an alternative
without losing the original track”. You have to admire these sorts of people as
most of their life is a wealth of “alternatives” and they do have a more
relaxed attitude to life because of it, affecting other areas of their lives as

Others flap into an almighty overload and rant and rave and feel that the whole
event is totally ruined and cannot possibly be overcome. They also very often
try to find someone or something to blame rather than dealing with the change
in circumstances. These people tend to have a low stress barrier and resort to
panic rather than logic allowing the unexpected to be an issue and usually end
up wasting time in dismay rather than putting an alternative plan into action.

you were a girl guide or not and managed to carry on “being prepared” through life’s’
ups and downs, by the time you get to a certain age your mind has well become
accustomed to the idea that nothing is completely guaranteed, and that there
will always be hurdles. How you deal with them is always the key point. The
pros of being calm, taking the matter in hand and looking for the alternative
is a good way of looking at any situation. Without taking the preparations of
“just in case” too far, it is better to deal with your attitude when faced with
an unexpected change. Sometimes a quiet count of one to ten can work wonders,
or a deep breathing moment will calm you into a sense of logic rather than
emotion and you can proceed to work through the panicking moment.

it life changing? Will it cause a global breakdown; will you or anyone else
really suffer due to the unexpected? More often than not the answer is no, and
for those events, there is always an alternative.

time spent in the disappointment mood, will bring quicker and more positive
results and resolves.

do you flap and find an unexpected surprise too much to cope with and find
yourself in a heap without a hope of calmness? Or are you controlled, calm and
collected in your thoughts with a carefree spirit?

do you personally deal with the unexpected?

Relationship with Food

Guiding Thoughts Posted on Sat, January 24, 2015 10:49:57

Free from all waste and poison, when no solid food has been taken for some time, one’s body functions without obstruction and one feels a surge of vitality through out one’s own system.

Stop to smell the roses, appreciate your surroundings, realise you live in a great place with interesting and eccentric people.

Appreciate your differences because we are all subtly different which is why we are so great (Humans).

Allow Religion to be guiding only, to give a focus to work towards for a better you, and to encourage love and peace to all peoples.

Now I will be turning my thoughts to writing a sequel to my last book in case it travels to Hollywood


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